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Voice - 2

6/14/2026

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Blessed 

I’m a people pleaser, so when I learned that our knee-jerk response to reporters after Candace’s body was found—that we were going to forgive the person who had murdered our daughter—had sparked a national discussion, I was devastated.

Apparently, nearly 80 percent of Canadians seemed to think we were heartless, that we didn’t care, that we were somehow letting a murderer off the hook.

I was shaken to the core. I cried for days.

Of course, I was grieving for Candace. I was grieving for our family. But I was also grieving for everyone caught in the pain and confusion of that moment.

I sank very low.

Then I stumbled across a verse:
"If you are insulted because of the name of Christ, you are blessed, for the Spirit of glory and of God rests on you."

And as I read it, I felt the Voice whisper it directly into my heart.

I thought, Well, we have just been insulted by much of Canada because we chose the way of Christ. Perhaps that means we are now in line for a whole lot of blessings.

And we were.

Apparently, the 20 percent who understood us loved us deeply. They surrounded us with such kindness, compassion, and encouragement that we can still feel the warmth of it today.

That Voice is still with me.

It is the Voice that has continued to bless me through the years.

It brought robins to my window here in Winkler.

It brought deer to stand outside our living-room window in Grimsby when Cliff was dying.

It even brought a chickadee that landed gently on my hand.

The Voice is with me.

The Voice stays with me.
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And I love the Voice.
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Lynne Kowalchuk
6/14/2026 08:26:29 pm

Hi Wilma
Your naming the feelings you have is marvellous! It’s almost like you have adopted and succeeded, against all odds to live your life completely within God’s words. I admire you for that. Must have been and still is difficult. You are living the Holy Word in the Bible.

I’ve been baptized into NKMB November 9/25. Since then I was sick for a month and a half with strep throat, then various other physical complaints. The one thing that has been actually beautiful is Bill and I say our prayers together each night and it has helped me see Bill in a different light. I actually pray instead of wanting to do whatever my way. I don’t try to get my way. Honestly it’s brought us so close. But I know why ordinary people don’t believe. My friend Ben being one. He’s perfect in his imperfections. Me, I actually feel kinda bad. I used to help more people, but now I am shirking these self induced obligations and concentrating on just a few that are close and I love it. As women do, I’ve always wanted to help everyone to the detriment of my close family. Maybe just saying this to you makes me realize I was trying to do too much.

Anyways I just turned 80 June 10 and we had the party on my Jamie’s birthday June 7/26…30 years gone. There’s a conversation in that, and I wanted my 80th to include him.

Otherwise our great granddaughter is turning 3 and our granddaughter is having another baby in October. All the kids are so good to us I can’t believe it. So glad we have them.

Be well, think positive and remember you are a beautiful woman inside and out. You’ve inspired lots of your admirers in so many different ways. You are goodness personified. Should be an angel like I said a long time ago.

The girls keep asking to visit you but I know you don’t want that. Please give it consider it for summer (if we ever get one)

Love you and glad you can express yourself so well.
Lynne

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