In fact I have made much of my living as a social researcher exposing my life and that of others, I have survived my traumatic life by trying to remain transparent in my public story. Besides my new passion is that everyone should expose themselves.I want everyone to write a book Is there a downside to all of this? What is this all about? I begin to mull it over.
Recently, I picked up the magazine Atlantic at the airport.
Leslie Jamison begins her article, Enough about me,.." "We live in an era of endless self-exposure; we parade our babies on Facebook, flaunt our witticisms on Twitter, turn our pancake brunches into still life on instagram," Over indulgence in so self-revelation can invite solipsism, she suggests.
The article which goes on to highlight a work of writing that indulges in self-exposure but yet because of the quality of self-examination turns out to be a work of art.
What is the difference - between self-indulgent self-exposure or quality self-examination or gifted artistic self-exposure? And does it really matter?
First of all - what are we trying to hide?
Blink - a book about rapid cognition, about the kind of thinking that happens in a blink of an eye, makes a studied case for instant self-exposure. Apparently when you meet someone for the first time, or walk into their house, your mind takes about two seconds to jump to a series of conclusions. It is proven that these instant conclusions are really powerful and really important and, occasionally, really good. In fact, Psychologist John Gottman who after many years observing couples in action, is able to predict whether they will stay together or divorce with 90 per cent accuracy, - after watching them for only a few minutes.
Perhaps my unease isn't about being exposed for what or who I am, which is inevitable anyway, but my way of managing it. I have been acting and reacting to everything before giving myself time to process things. I feel I am a contradictory mess. I feel that I have been reacting irresponsibly.
My whole being is saying - stop!
Be a contributing member of society, family and even your own life!
Yes! That's it.
Manage it - do it differently.
How we do that?
I am back to my new passion!
Write another book!
I can tell you that the writing of a book... if you have attended to the formidable task of illuminating the human heart in conflict with itself- will do the opposite of expose you. It will connect you. With others. With the world around you. With yourself." - Dani Shapiro