Sweet Christmas Spots
As you might already have guessed - this past year was extremely challenging for us.
We will always remember 2017 as the year of the second trial, starting January 16 and ending with the acquittal on October 18, finalized on November 8.
The trial agenda consumed the entire year - less one month. Wow!
We still can’t believe that our wait to find out the truth of our daughter’s murder 33 years ago is finally over and that we feel satisfied with the resulting poetic justice. Imagine 33 years - almost to the date that Candace disappeared - November 30, 1984.
Frankly, we are still trying to unpack this unexpected closure.
The other surprise, is that we find ourselves in a very "sweet spot."
That's what Cliff has called it. A "sweet spot" is a place where a combination of factors results in a maximum response for a given amount of effort. The sweet spot is the location at which the object being struck, usually a ball, absorbs the maximum amount of the available forward momentum and rebounds away from the racket, bat, club, etc. with a greater velocity than if struck at any other point on the racket, bat or club.
One sweet spot is our children. We are simply thrilled with our children. Odia & Larry with their daughter, Georgia, and Syras & Natasha with their two children Simeon and Anna are all doing amazing. We are just fascinated with them all. We could list growth, achievement and wonderment for each one of them. Even Candace, who has gone before us, is still a vital force. Candace House is doing so well. We are all spending Christmas together. To see Christmas life through the eyes of three little ones, ranging approximately, 3-5 in age, all very different, beautiful, bright-eye and extremely verbal - will be like enjoying a refreshing two-day romantic comedy from beginning to end.
And Cliff and I are doing great. We too are in our sweet spots.
Cliff is absorbed in his new career as art teacher and art director at St. Aiden’s Christian School. On a personal level, he has found a new artistic expression – yes – he is still exploring and creating new things. So we anticipate something very new in our future Theotrinsic Spring Art Show, (2019). The combination of teaching and art are definitely his sweet spot.
I'm now enjoying my new career as a therapist at the Oakville Wellness Center. As I'm gaining confidence and seeing growth in those that come, I am so grateful to be part of their journey.
Oh yes and I'm, teaching a course, “Write Your Life Story” at the Good Neibours Active Living Centre, I started this last year - and I'm continuing it again in the New Year - I'm so pleased with the results - really! I am more convinced than ever that everyone has a book in them. And I also continue to accept speaking engagements (this next year is starting to look very interesting) and write - of course. Besides other writing projects, I am writing a memoir of the trial. I'm not sure I would call the memoir a sweet spot - but I know that I need to do it.
Above all, I am grateful for the justice system, investigators, trial friends, and the prayers of our friends and family who made this last year of ours, durable, rewarding, interesting and fulfilling. . We are truly over-whelmed with the beauty of the human spirit that we have witnessed throughout this entire ordeal.
So I just want to wish everyone in our lives and those who we might not know personally but are interested in our lives, the best Christmas season ever!!!
May you all find your "sweet spot" this coming New Year!
“Would you like to know your future? If your answer is yes, think again. Not knowing is the greatest life motivator. So enjoy, endure, survive each moment as it comes to you in its proper sequence -- a surprise.” Vera Nazarian.