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A Pause

4/3/2023

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I'm a word processor and I've learned a lot about myself as I've unraveled these four quadrants of forgiveness in this blog. 

Using  my own life, I've been illustrating how suffering can lead to deep fragmentation along the obvious quadrant fault lines. 


Up till now I've been reviewing the quadrants through the five senses of the body, the five love languages of the heart, the six functions of the mind and the five responsibilities of the spirit.

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By examining the quadrants  individually, I have also tried to show how difficult it is to put the shattered pieces together, impossible without the golden glue of forgiveness that I am outlining  in the design of the Forgiveness Centre.

What we haven't talked about is the inherent power struggle of the two forces inside and outside of us that also fragment us. There is the higher power of life, love, learning and light and the lower power of chaos. It is well documented in all cultures that we have an angel on one shoulder and a devil on the other - always bickering inside our heads.

That is why I have appreciated, Steve Covey's work who suggests that even though the quadrants are equally important, they do require leadership to function as a unit.
He suggests that we need to be guided by the Spirit, because it is the Spirit quadrant that has the ability to choose, the desire and will to follow through, the power to imagine something new and the responsibility to make it happen.

We also  know that is the Spirit that has the ability to connect with the peculiar power of the designer of the forgiveness  process. 


Ever since man's story of origin  - the garden of Eden -  the need for forgiveness and healing has been apparent and applied. We also know that by applying forgiveness we can reap the fruits of the Spirit of the Higher Power which are:  love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

In my processing, I am arriving again and again at the only conclusion -  forgiveness gives us hope.

“Hope is not dependent on peace in the land, justice in the world, and success in the business. Hope is willing to leave unanswered questions unanswered and unknown futures unknown. Hope makes you see God’s guiding hand not only in the gentle and pleasant moments but also in the shadows of disappointment and darkness. No one can truly say with certainty where he or she will be ten or twenty years from now. You do not know if you will be free or in captivity, if you will be honored or despised, if you will have many friends or few, if you will be liked or rejected. But when you hold lightly these dreams and fears, you can be open to receive every day as a new day and to live your life as a unique expression of God’s love for humankind. There is an old expression that says, “As long as there is life there is hope.” As Christians we also say, “As long as there is hope there is life.” - Henri Nouwen
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Jan Uttley
4/3/2023 04:10:41 am

Brought a big sigh of relief..Hope of unknown future gave me,a smile...

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