The Derksen New Year’s Letter of surprise, praise and thanksgiving.
Not sure what happened this Christmas Season but it caught us by surprise, spun us around and left us without any time to send Christmas cards or write a family letter. We thought we might just skip the tradition this year until we were kindly asked for one. Now that we have written it, we are glad we did. It has been an amazing year for both of us. Just writing this letter has made us very thankful.
Cliff’s Desk
In reviewing this past year I’m awed by the many small and major new things that have transpired in my life. I guess that’s why it’s a good thing we do these things. Otherwise, we miss out on a renewed appreciation of how God brings growth, guidance and goodness into our lives. 
St. Aidan’s Christian School
Let’s begin with my art. I believe I’m in my eighth-year teaching art at St. Aidan’s Christian School. I just love introducing spiritual truths and principles teaching prophetic kind of art to the students. This Christmas I became aware of the high number of times angels were referenced in the Christmas story and so we talked about and drew angel scenes.
Documentary “Suspended”
One of these significant first-time events of 2018 happened on June 18th. After about two years of following me around with his camera Andrew Wall of Refuge31 Films scheduled a premier showing of a documentary entitled, Suspended and the Art of Forgiveness - film of me doing my art thing, teaching, making and showing my art. To see a description, awards and trailer go to www.refuge31.com. You can view the documentary by going to your “on demand” TV channel, then go to “search” and type in “Suspended”.  I am so honored and blown away with how God arranged for all this to happen.  It has even won five awards.
Pop Up Gallery
Another significant event that happened this summer was what we called a “Pop Up Gallery” of my art in the city of Winnipeg!  We got a call from Algonquin College in Ottawa and their “Victimology Program” asking if they could create a short film of our story that could continue to be used as a learning tool for their students and survivors of crime. How could we say no? So, we found ourselves running around the city to find locations for 17 or so pieces of my art. On July 29 two wonderful young photographers arrived from Ottawa and we spent the day driving around the city with a moving truck taking pictures of my art all over the city. We finished with interviews at the scenic St. Norbert monastery. The Lord gave us wonderful weather; it was an amazing experience. We are looking forward in anticipation as to how God is going to use this film.
Wilma’s Desk
So much has happened.  The year began in a panic. The trial was over and I wanted to pack it up and put it away forever - but it’s not that easy.
 Project Angel
First of all, I had to write a book. It was my way of processing what had happened, organizing it and packing it into a memory box so I could forget it.
It was also my way of doing justice. It’s an answer to the question of some we met. “If you truly believe he is guilty, how can you live with knowing that he is free to victimize other vulnerable women?”
With a book, I was able to explain my reasons for believing he is guilty. With a book, I was able to give power to the truth, which creates a prison of sorts. With a book, I was able to address some of the flaws in our justice system, hopefully to make it better, because unfortunately I have come to the conclusion that our justice system is not equipped, prepared or motivated to deal with what would be considered a frivolous argument, something introduced by the defense that sabotages the entire process and proves to be unproveable in the end. I hear that they are now setting up mechanisms to charge defense lawyers who practice this. From what I hear, the book is causing some to think – to re-evaluate. I’m also hearing that some defense lawyers are being haunted by the trial – and the outcome. I hope the book will encourage change. For me writing the book was successful, - I can lay it to rest. The book Project Angel was launched end of June.
Bronx Course
This year, I also found my passion. I started teaching a “Life Writing” course.  I have never enjoyed anything more than seeing people begin to write their life story – and finish it.  In total I have done four sessions, and loved every minute. My biggest celebration was when my first student completed her 130-page book in one year - as promised in the course - and then allowed Amity Publishers to edit, design and print it. It became the perfect Christmas gift for her family and herself. It really is an amazing accomplishment for someone who had no intention of writing a book.
Writing Projects
 But now all my writing is on hold until I finish my next book, Lifers – an amazing escape. It’s a story of the redemption of “once the most wanted man in Canada” and the justice-making of a “mother of a murdered daughter.” Both resorted to extreme measures to get the freedom that they needed.  It’s the strangest story I’ve ever told.
 Cliff & Wilma’s Family Desk
 Candace House
On Nov. 26, Candace House celebrated its grand opening. The house was named after our daughter Candace, who was murdered in 1984. This Winnipeg-based charity provides support for victims and survivors of violent crime and is "a homelike day refuge for families during the court process."
 We are thrilled that victims of violent crime and their families dealing with the justice system now have a place they can call home, if only for a short time.
 It truly was an amazing start with excellent media coverage. Check it out at:
https://www.winnipegfreepress.com/our-communities/herald/A-welcome-place-501375221.html
 Pastors
How about this one for a first ever kind of history-making event.
Both our son-in-law, Larry Reimer, and our son, Syras Derksen announced to us that they wanted to become pastors mid-summer.
Larry Reimer was hired lead pastor of the Cornerstone Vineyard Church in Winkler, MB. He is, along with our daughter, Odia, being ordained, Feb. 3, 2019. http://cornerstonevineyard.com/
Syras Dersken has decided to found a new church, Maplecrest Church which meets at the South Holiday Inn on Pembina Hwy, Wpg. MB.  He and Natasha are pastoring a newly formed congregations of about 55 strong supporters. www.maplecrestchurch.ca
We are pastoring alongside of them.
By the way – our three grandchildren are amazing and we have pictures galore to prove it. :)
Art Studio
A lot of our energy and planning has also gone into renovating our car garage into an art studio. It’s been a few years now since Cliff has had a ceramic studio so he is very anxious to get that finished. We’ve just got the permit and should be done in a month or so – or so we hope. ;)
It’s been quite momentous year so say the least. We are in awe of what God has been doing. The opportunities to share and give testimony to how God has led us through grief, trauma and forgiveness over these many years continues.

We ask for your prayers for wisdom and prophetic insight to speak to the hearts of those who are in pain and struggling to find forgiveness and true freedom in Christ.
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Thank you for your prayers and support   
                                                                                                     
 Happy New Years to you all
                                                                                                         
​Cliff and Wilma Derksen
 
 
 
 

       The story behind the story.
      Yesterday I experienced Candace House. I actually had coffee at the kitchen table, toured it, touched it, sat in every soft chair and had amazing conversation with everyone in it.
       Then I came home and cried.
        I cried because it is so beautiful!
        It has magic. It works. It is perfectly designed. It has Candace’s spirit hovering close by.
         And I’m remembering the journey – that long journey of 34 years that got us here.
        I remember how shocked I was when I joined the first group of crime victims so many years ago. We were so raw.  I remember the poverty of spirit, the poverty of place and the poverty of hope.
          In my work with other charities  - like the founding of Child Find -  there was always a quick heart-breaking sympathy toward the cause that translated into easy access to resources. This culture of crime victims was different. In crime there is always an inherent offender – an inherent war – legal and personal. It doesn’t open hearts,. It engages the justice mind – the critical mind.
          As outcasts, we needed safe people and a safe place, but couldn’t find anything. It felt like no one wanted us, so we would seek each other out and meet in dark church basements – left-over places so we could cry together.
        After 20 years of meeting other crime victims from all over the country, I was convinced that there was a need to do something. In fact everyone sensed it. But no one knew what to do. Then one day, I was asked again. “What is the answer to crime victim anger?’
        I searched my heart – synthesizing all my victim experiences. By this time, I had heard it all even though I hadn’t experienced it all.
      My heart said. “A house.”
     Then I met Floyd Wiebe,  president of a parallel victim organization , who shared my concerns and experiences  except that he attracted a different set of crime victims. He attracted those who chose advocacy and I attracted those who chose emotional healing.
        Knowing his dedicated heart – I asked him the same question. “If you won tons of money and wanted to donate a good portion to the work of crime victims, what would you do?”
        He said “A House. I’d build a house for them. They need a place.”
        Wow! The dream was solidified.
      It was the unlikely people that caught the vision first. It was the offender type organizations were keenly aware that most of the public  attention was directed their way –  leaving nothing for us. They even raised money for it
      And in the beginning when the idea was floundering, it was a defense lawyer who took me out for lunch. “You can’t let it go…. It’s too good an idea.” He became a member on the founding board, and I credit him for being one of the most powerful consistent driving forces behind the vision all these years.
     Actually it was the offender camp and influence that designated it “the Candace House”… even though I had misgiving of our family being so closely allied with the house.
          Then we wondered if anyone else was interested.
       We organized a consultation that brought all the big players together: government (federal and provincial).  victims of every stripe, program directors, and mental health advisers. We found out that we all agreed –  we needed a house.
       With such open endorsement from every possible interested party – we were convinced.
        But then to do it!
       Oh my – that was the hard work. We looked for a prototype and found that there was none. We would have to fashion it all ourselves. We then nailed down the victims needs and matched a house design to it.
         We made some mistakes.
       No – they weren’t mistakes! They were rabbit trails. We needed to try out different places, different visions and different emphasis to see what would work.
         First of all, we emphasized a house. It had to be a house – the grander the better.
       Then during our trial – I reconsidered that.  We could forgo the house concept for something closer to the Law Courts buildings, I decided . After all , we could turn any building into a house with a homey feeling.
           And back and forth we went.
           The wear and tear took its toll. I burned out. We as a board burned out.
         At that time in desperation – four years ago – I handed it off.  I chose two amazing people.
        When I was director of Victims’ Voice, there was a student who I had hired through a summer program to put together a conference of high profile crime victims. We even pulled in Bill Pelke from the states.
        She did it! She organized it all. At the end I noticed that the victims who were usually very particular about who they would let into their broken hearts, invited her into theirs. They asked me if she could be invited to one of their self-help support groups even though she didn’t meet the membership criteria, which was to have experienced the murder of a loved one. .
           Years later, I remembered her and decided she would make a great executive director for the “house.”. I sent her a quick Facebook message.
            Thank goodness she paid attention. We hired her – on pittance. Her name was Cecilly Hildebrand.
          Then I was on the lookout for a president of the floundering board. We had always chosen people aligned with the compatible programs, but now I thought we needed a new look. The dream was about a house, not a program. It meant buying a house – renting out offices in the house – perhaps renovating a house. We would need a business mind. I met this young man at a business network meeting. He moved among the wealthy with ease. He was growing his own promising business with a youthful enthusiasm. He was amazing.
        I Introduced him to the board – and they named him president very quickly. His name was Darryl Stewart.
       And then I retreated to my own trauma-riddled life to heal and recover in time for the next retrial.
I remember driving home from a CH board meeting and realizing I had nothing left. I actually said out loud. “Dear God – you – together with Candace, have got to make this work. I’m out of here. I love it, I endorse it, I believe in it, but I can’t make it happen. I’m at the end. I give it to you – and all those I’ve chosen and love…. “
            That was four years ago –
          And now it is here.
          The first stories coming out of the program are amazing. 
          To see this dream become a reality and for it to be functioning already the way we had envisioned it to function so long ago, feels like a miracle.  But it’s not a miracle. It has been built on an amazing team of hard-working, courageous, persistent, visionary, individuals, who were able to navigate the path from dream to practicality and design a house that is perfect.
            I’m crying because I’m happy. It is beautiful.  It is so perfect.
           I’m also crying for all those victim friends of mine – who way back in time –  needed this house. They would have loved it. I miss them now.
           I’m crying that we still need such a house…. I’m crying for families that will use this house.
            I’m crying tears of gratitude that there are wonderful brave souls who dared to make this dreams come true.

“Beauty of whatever kind, in its supreme development, invariably excites the soul to tears.”  Edgar Allan Poe

Below  - you will find the first prototype of Candace House. My sister Lu and her husband Jake drove their Road Trek camper van from BC to attend the preliminary hearing. If I look back, it was the preliminary hearing that was the hardest - that's when we learned about the tying and all of that. I was an emotional wreck before - during and after. 
 
I remember the first day as we were leaving the house. My sister asked if we might all travel together in our car so as to save parking fees. I nodded. Then I looked at their van parked on the street. "No,"  I said. "We need your Van. I need some place to escape during the day."

They conceded. Actually they were able to obtain a pass from the Legislative Building  because of their tourist status. 

So during the breaks we would cross the street to the Leg where the van was parked and picnic. Crossing the street, sitting in a private space with close friends and family -  felt like a healing retreat centre. One day we even had boiled hot corn on the cob -- comfort food. Oh yes - there was always a stash of chocolate in the van.

As you can see in the picture - there were moments when we could forget all about what was happening across the street. 

Thank you Jake and Lu - you were a god send. We have now replicated some of this in the Candace House. We don't have the lawn, perhaps,  - but everything else.   Blessings!

I flew into Saskatoon on the wings of a cold winter front, wearing my ballet flats. Wrong footwear. I should have been wearing boots. But then again, since there is something sacred about Humboldt - perhaps next time I might not wear shoes at all.
       Right from the beginning there was something different about this speaking engagement. There was something even odd about the invitation.
I had met this lovely woman at a Living Books conference in Borden about a year and a half ago. We talked writing – we talked books – the relationship was cemented. Then I received an invitation from her almost exactly a year ago to speak at a Carlton Trail ProLife and AGM gala. I warned her that this was not my usual cause.  I am pro life – on all fronts – but not exactly against abortion. It’s complicated - I am not an activist....
               She insisted that my story was pro life and the talk that I had given in Borden was what would be needed.
              I was intrigued. Not so much with the topic but with the place. My mother grew up in Humboldt I just wanted to visit – perhaps to feel her again. In any case, I said yes.
              When I told others, I had been invited to speak at Humboldt – they shrugged. Where? Why? There was always a puzzlement about it – which I kind of shared.
              Everything changed on April 6, when a bus carrying the members of the Humboldt Bronco Team players crashed into a semi-trailer killing 16 and injuring 13 others.  It soon became an international story not only of the tragedy but about this Humboldt community – that responded so elegantly to such a tragic event.
              After this tragic accident, when I told anyone that I has a speaking engagement in Humboldt, I didn’t have to explain where, why or what. Their eyes would soften. “We will pray for you,” they would murmur or something like that. I felt instant empathy and love flowing to this tiny heartbreak city of about 6,000 people just east of Saskatoon.
              As it turned out, this wasn't an in and out kind of speaking engagement. I was chauffeured, billeted, hosted and toured through Humboldt. I met the students at the St. Therese Catholic Bible College (Bruno). Reminded me of my own Bible College days in Hepburn Saskatchewan. Same feel. 
               I noticed that there were wall crucifixes everywhere I went,  a wonderful Catholic  tradition.  
              The gala was held at the Royal Canadian Legion on Main Street. It was attended predominately by people of the Catholic faith who champion pro life the way Mennonites champion pacifism, I gathered. 
           After a lovely dinner, I addressed the audience.  I’m really not sure what I said – it always becomes somewhat of a blur. All I remember is that they were very attentive – and that they stood up after I had spoken to tell me that I had connected.
          The thrust of my message these days is that we all have a story. I believe that we are here not by chance but for a purpose and that we can’t interfere with someone’s story whether they be vulnerable babies or criminal. We might need to manage unacceptable behaviors -  but never the story. And then I go on and on about the magic and power of words.
              The next day, I had a chance to speak at the Humboldt Collegiate (Christian/Catholic Ethics) class in a building that is now famous because of the crash. It is all famous now – known – familiar. Beautiful students all connected somehow....
              At the very end, I had a sushi luncheon with one of the organizers – who told me the story behind the stories.
              Now - after two very meaningful days, meeting the most generous and courageous people,  I think everyone should go to Humboldt.
​              Don’t wear shoes – the place is somewhat holy.

“No one is ever holy without suffering.” -- Evelyn Waugh​

     Yesterday, I spoke to a gymnasium full of high school students.
    I remember those high school years - attending a private school -  meeting in the gym for chapel - the girls all wearing navy jumper uniforms with white blouses -  and the boys wearing anything they wanted  - mostly ragged jeans and t-shirts.
     I actually loved visiting speakers back then  - especially the ones with stories.
So I launched into my Candace stories. I found myself  recounting much of that first book I wrote, Have you seen Candace? which ended with a mystery. This time I could finish the story.
       And I told it all -- well not all of it. I didn't go into some of the details of her death. I spared them that. In fact I didn't talk much about the trials at all. I rather highlighted Candace's personality, her devotion to her friends and her devotion to her God which remain so vivid after all these years.
       Time is fluid. It was as if Candace was in the room - sitting amongst them - glowing. It was as if I was beside her - a much younger self  -  glowing.
       It seemed as if we were all glowing. The students glowed with youth and vitality.
     They were such an exceptionally well-behaved, bright-eyed and responsive group. It was as if we were sitting around a campfire telling stories - the more dramatic  the better. I became aware again how dramatic my story is - how full of ghosts and such. 
      However in the drama, I tried to be responsible and embed the age-old truths that whatever happens - and it will happen - can be turned into something good. I stressed the balance of love, justice and forgiveness.
        I also recounted some of the trauma.  I told them how we had to relearn to laugh, how I had to let go of my  self pity - and fight against remaining a victim.  I told them that even though Candace was murdered that she still lives. There is something known as Candace pixie dust. 
         But I forgot one important thing. I forgot to tell them to write.
          I am horrified.
         Standing in front of them telling all of my stories, I forgot the most important truth of all. I forgot about writing.
​         I could not have stood up there in front of them, 33 years later, vividly retelling all those stories of Candace if I hadn't so carefully and descriptively written them all down that first year when I was so raw. I remember crying as I wrote them - sobbing as if my heart would break - which it did - but I wrote it all down anyhow. And I'm so grateful I did.
         But I forgot to tell them--
       
         
   “Write while the heat is in you. … .” —Henry David Thoreau

​     This morning, I was given an hour to tell my 33-year long story –from beginning to end. The group had watched bits and pieces of my story through the media – now they wanted it all - the entire background to the story. Thirty-three years is a long story, but I did it. 
      In the last few weeks, I’ve spoken to four groups. The first presentation was writing as a healing exercise.  The next was how to write the “unacceptable story” – this is actually a six-week course. The third was on “prophetic writing" - how can we activate the spirit in our writing exercises? This last one was to a church group who meets in a renovated garage. 
    ( By the way, I love the idea of a renovated garage because we are in the middle of transforming our garage into a studio. It is taking forever with all kinds of unexpected twists and turns - like building permits. So it was just good to see how one can finish a project. Beautifully done!) 
      Anyway, at this last group, I knew that my assignment was to inspire forgiveness, survival, and prayer through the telling of my story which I have always loved to do.
      So I did that – for about 45 minutes – and then I just started preaching writing. 
     Yes - writing. Somehow I switched the whole story presentation to talk about my new passion - my new hobby horse - writing!
      And yes I started "preaching?"  I think that is the only word to describe it.   I wasn't encouraging and suggesting that people should write a book, I was preaching it. 
     I have become a hot-headed evangelist. I don’t seem to care what your gifts or interests are, I want you – and everyone else - to write.
       I am clutching the mike, pounding my fist on the podium and preaching fire and brimstone messages to everyone who is not doing their morning pages. 
        I came home expecting to have a free  afternoon  – I’ve been quite busy of late. I thought I finally had my space to write! I was so excited to get going.
          As I walked through the door, I realized I don’t want to write. I just want to watch TV. 
        I have many exciting writing projects that are just begging for my attention. Only one more word - even a few sentences - would have furthered my cause.
          Nope - I just want a cup of tea and squander my entire afternoon. 
        Apparently, not everyone has to write a book - every moment of the day. There are other wonderful - delicious -  ways to spend one's time. 
​            I can’t believe how hard it is for me to admit that.

“Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.”  ― Marthe Troly-Curtin

  I never thought I would be finding a new life at this age. I thought we would be walking into the sunset by now - planning exotic vacations, dozing in our rocking chair or pushing up daisies. However, here we are, scrambling to meet the next deadline in our new life.
     I have to admit. It took us a bit to recover from the verdict. For a while, It felt as if we were free falling into emptiness. There was the "nothingness of an unsatisfactory ending"  then there was  also the "nothingness of no forced agenda."
      Perhaps it was even more complicated than that.  It was almost as if we had stepped into an empty nest syndrome. 
         Empty nest syndrome? Yes, - no one was demanding our attention anymore. We were no longer parenting - it seemed.  Then we realized that even though Candace had died - murdered 33 years ago - her invisible presence had remained a constant in our lives. She had never left our home.
       During the investigation  - that lasted 22 years and the trial process of another 11 years - she had needed our support. She required our presence in the courtroom, our love, our words. But after the writing of the final book, our responsibility was over.  It was as if she was no longer dependent on us. She had moved out. 
          She is still our child. We will always love her, but she now comes to us when she needs us. 
         For a while, it felt empty. However, that emptiness filled up quickly with all kinds of leftover passions that I had put on a shelf when the children were born.  
         Imagine, I can indulge in something new at this age.
​         Amazing.
         Of course, I have second thoughts. Is this possible? Is this right?  Will this last?
         In any case - it is fun.
        However, I know I wouldn't be here - except for all of the support that I received during those dark - never- ending years. I lived on all of  those kind thoughts and words that were given to me back then.
         Now - I am still trying to return all that kindness that was given so generously.
         So I will share the joy - just as I shared the sadness. 

My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style. Maya Angelou